Navigating loss

The first few days

During the first few days following a loss, you may feel shock or numbness.In a way, this is how the body can help people through the initial pain being experienced. You might also be unable to focus on even simple tasks and not fully aware of what you're doing.1

Others may think you’re holding up well, but the reality of your loss might still be sinking in.

If your loved one had a long-term illness, there could also be a sense of relief that his or her suffering is over. These feelings are usually quite normal.1

The first few weeks

In the first few weeks following a loss, you may feel abandoned or forgotten by family and friends who have moved on and returned to their usual routine. Or, if you’re still in shock, you might be thinking that the grieving process isn’t as hard as you feared.1

How long the grief will last is different for everyone. Remember there is no set time frame for grief, so be patient with yourself and take all the time you need to heal.1

Some of the symptoms you might notice may include:

  1. Trouble sleeping
  2. Difficulty concentrating
  3. Feeling weak
  4. Change in appetite

There is hope, and it does get better

Eventually, you will start adjusting to life without your loved one. You may find new routines, new hobbies, and new sources of support. As time goes on, you’ll feel more comfortable with your new life.1

Taking steps towards feeling better

The feelings experienced as you grieve can be quite difficult to navigate. You may find that there are certain steps and strategies that help you to cope and feel better.1 These may include:

What if I'm not starting to feel better?

There generally are many different emotions experienced during the grieving process, however it may be helpful to also learn more about when these feelings are potentially more than just grief.1

Depression is a serious illness, and signs that you could be experiencing depression include:2

  • Feelings of guilt
  • Ongoing worthlessness and hopelessness
  • Being unable to eat or shower
  • Crying for long periods of time
  • Eating a lot or not at all
  • Anxiety or feeling afraid
  • Sleeping too much, or too little

Where can I find help?

It’s important to see your doctor or counsellor if you think you are suffering from depression.2 Beyond Blue can also provide advice and resources to help.

If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please immediately call Triple Zero 000 in Australia, or urgently seek medical or psychological support.

Lifeline Australia have a free phone line for all Australians who are experiencing personal crises. Phone 13 11 14 or visit the Lifeline website at

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